Relationship talk: Kindly advice! Straight from the heart.

My name is Seun, I'm 32 years old; I got married to the love of my life, Kenny, in 2010.  I courted and dated my husband for six years; we both attended the same university for our undergraduate and Masters. 

Within six months of our marriage, my Kenny moved to a country in Europe, he said, he wanted us to be more than an average family, hence the reason why he travelled.  His plan for us was for us to have our children in Europe.  After one year that my husband had travelled, I kept bothering him with numerous phone calls, I later informed  him that I wanted to move to Europe as I felt that, I was not enjoying my marriage and almost all my friends continue to ask me the big question: “When are you joining your husband?”  A question that I am avoiding as I have no answer.

In 2011, the news that I had never imagined, I never knew my Kenny would ever engage in such act. The action that he took doesn't depict a Born Again Christian.  Kenny informed me that, in order for me to move to Europe to live with him, he married an European woman so as to obtain citizenship, with the aim of joining my husband in Europe.

Last year November 2012, I contacted my husband via his land-line  his European wife picked up, and there was baby noise in the background.  The European wife passed the phone to my husband, I asked my husband about the baby.  Kenny just said it unexpectedly; he stated that, “it is our baby”. The European woman and I decided to have a baby together; it is for our future, as I will be able to invite you to Europe.

After the phone call, I wept bitterly.  I became tired of everything; I have no children not to talk of having one child for my husband.  I'm still in shocked; I'm not sure what to think of his act, did he cheat? Has he committed adultery?  Is it love? As his main purpose of marrying the European woman was to enable me to come to Europe.

Last week, my male best friend, whom we grew up together asked to go on a date with him.  I'm terrified to go on a date with him, as I feel that it will constitute cheating.  However, I'm thinking of leaving my husband, I want to marry somebody else as age is not on my side, but I don’t think I have the courage to do that.

I plan to move to the North, where nobody would recognise me.  I'm still confused on what to do.